“PICTURE THIS”:

You’re a sweet little cat just trying to take a nap, just minding your own business and doing “a thing” that makes absolute makes purrfect sense to you. After all, it is the quietest room in a houseful of constant chaos that you often enjoy and participate in, which is why you’re just trying to take the nap.

Meanwhile …

As you hop up on to your favorite spot, you notice that the crazy lady you live with who calls herself your “Ma” has put another bed on your bed, for what reason you just can’t fathom. So, you lay down beside it, and not inside it, because you like the bed under the bed on the bed just fine. Ahh! As you’re just about to drift off, you’re startled by the sound of the crazy lady snapping your picture and chirping in a high-pitched voice:

What are you doing, Good Cat, you silly little girl? Didn’t you see the cozy bed I put there for you to lay in, since I know it’s you’re your favorite spot in the house to nap? Why are you lying BESIDE it and not IN it?

Yes, Ma, I did see the cozy bed that you put here for me to lay in, and while I do so appreciate the gesture, I just want to lay in MY spot, the way I ALWAYS HAVE and ALWAYS WILL, unless or until I decide NOT to do! So, can I please just take my nap now?

LET’S ALL BE LIKE GOOD CAT!

If “the thing” you’re doing works for you and isn’t hurting anyone else, NEVER CHANGE IT unless YOU decide to change it … NOT because someone who thinks they know what’s best for you tries to make you. It’s called autonomy people! We’re entitled to live our lives in the manner that WE decide is best, even if “our thing” makes people uncomfortable.

You know what they say about advice and opinions, right? They’re like assholes, ’cause everybody has them! We ALL get a vote! We ALL get a journey! We ALL get to choose the bed we wanna lay in … good, bad, or somewhere in between … even if that bed makes no sense to anyone.

As for me and Good Cat? Although my heart was in the VERY right place today, THIS Momma Cat needed to stay in her own damn lane and let the princess take her ‘lil cat nap where she wanted to!

What’s great about this “love song” is that you can sing it to yourself whenever you need reminding to never change who you are for the sake of someone else unless you want to. If you’re lucky enough to be surrounded by people who love you as you are, be thankful. Not everyone is selfless enough to be allow others to be themselves in their world.

Been there! Done that!

I’ve slept on both sides of this bed. Despite his imperfections and the wretched way he left us, never once during our season did he force or even ask me to change. He loved me as I was, “good Cat, bad Cat, and everywhere in between”, regardless of whether “my things” made sense, and just look who I’ve become!

Now, go take a nap wherever you damn well please, and never change (unless YOU want to)! Someday, someone brave is gonna say a thousand beautiful things about all the ways they feel about you and why “the things” you do made them fall in love with the “island of you”!

NEVER CHANGE

There’s a thousand things I’ve wanted to say but I’ve never been brave. No, I’ve never been brave. And you deserve the whole world. An island to yourself. You’re an island in yourself. And I think its time that I tell you how I feel. This is how I feel. And I get lost when I’m with you. And you’ll hear me say never change, baby. Stay the same, lady. Did I know for so long? Never change. There’s a hundred places I’ve wanted to see. Would you see them with me? Would you see them with me? And I don’t care where we go ”cause you are home. You are my home. And we can stay in cheap hotels. Lets just pay to entertain ourselves. And I get lost when I’m with you. And you’ll hear me say never change baby. Stay the same lady. Did I know for so long l? And I’m your man; hear me scream your name daily. Who I’ve known for so long. Never change. And I will take you with me everywhere I go. Pack your bags and leave it baby. I want you to know that loving you is easy. I thought I’d tell you so. And I want you to know: Never change baby. Stay the same lady. Did I move for so long? Never change baby. Stay the same lady. Did I move for so long? And I’m your man. Hear me Scream your name daily. Who I’ve known for so long. Never change.” {Picture This}