Jean-Claude Van DAMN, my kids’ father has done way too many things to count over the years that made me literally think about running him over with my car. And FYI, I wouldn’t actually run anyone over with my car all you people, so simmer down if you’re freaking out right now and thinking about calling the Dateline NBC hotline. Lol. At “fifty-TWO-good-to-be-true” years old and not that far from “fifty-THREE-it’s-SO-good-to-be-me”, if I’d been capable of actually running someone over with my car, I’m fairly certain it would have happened by now. But I’ve digressed!
My point is that this very German man who I’ve loved to hate so many times really has pissed me off during the course of our lifetime with our kids together (because after all, I’m such a perfect mom, lol). But guess what, people? Even after all the “way too many things” he’s pulled, THESE are the moments and stories I desperately want our daughter to remember and tell her own kids down the road.
Hey, BRATS! I mean “Crazy Grandma Cat’s grandkids“! Let me tell you a super cool story about your Grandpa and “the day of the epic schnitzel sandwich”!
So, to any “co-parenting” parents out there reading this right now, please remember that no matter how many times you’ve ever thought about running your baby’s momma or daddy over with your car, or HOW many jacked up things they may have done to you and yours, if and when they do something epic and right, be sure to give them the props and credit they are due and tell your kids the same. While no parent is perfect, and some of us can and have been nightmares, sometimes we CAN do things that are beyond redeeming. If and when that happens, what could be the harm in telling each other, “Good job”?
Keep looking for the brighter side of ALL the fucked-up greys, my co-parenting friends. EMBRACE IT when you find it and do what you must to change the toxic narrative being fed to your children’s psyches. Trust me when I say that not only will they likely look back and thank you for it, nuggets like these will serve their mental wealth and memories so much better than, “I’m pretty sure my mom wanted to run my dad over with her car”. Just sayin’!