MAY 9, 2021: “Mama’s Boys” …


There are two special songs that have long been endearing between me and my son, Christian. The first is “Hold My Hand” by Hootie & The Blowfish. He started singing it to me around age three, and it wasn’t uncommon for him to literally “hold my hand” as we walked through a mall or restaurant or even a zoo or movie theater as he belted it out loud for the entire world to hear.

The second one came into play a few years later, and the first time we heard together, he “grabbed my hand” and I sobbed. Over the years, he’s either sent it, sung it, or dedicated it to me too many times to count, and of course it was our bittersweet “Mother/Son” dance at The Frog & The Butterfly wedding redo in 2015. That being said, have any of you ever really listened to the words?

You taught me everything and everything you’ve given me – I’ll always keep it inside. You’re the driving force in my life. There isn’t anything or anyone that I could be, and it just wouldn’t feel right if I didn’t have you by my side. You were there for me to love and care for me when skies were gray. Whenever I was down, you were always there to comfort me, and no one else can be what you have been to me. You will always be the girl in my life for all times. Mama you know I love you. Mama you’re the queen of my heart. Your love is like tears from the stars, yes it is. Mama I just want you to know lovin’ you is like food to my soul. You’re always there for me, have always been around for me even when I was bad. You showed me right from my wrong. Yes you did. And you took up for me when everyone was downin’ me. You always did understand. You gave me strength to go on. There were so many times looking back when I was so afraid, and then you’d come to me and say to me I can face anything. And no one else can do what you have done for me. You’ll always be the girl in my life. Mama you know I love you. Mama you’re the queen of my heart. Your love is like tears from the stars. Mama I just want you to know – Lovin’ you is like food to my soul. Never gonna go a day without you. {Boyz 2 Men}

Imagine you’re a highly impressionable, innocent young boy or even a grown man who’s never had a mama to sing these words to or feel these feelings for? Worse yet, imagine you’re a boy who’s “mama” just got up and walked out on him because she was nothing more than a self-consumed, vile excuse of a woman who took the utmost honor and responsibility of “mama” and spat both it and her children on the ground like shit? These days, it seems that “man bashing”has become commonplace and “all men are the devil” is the flavor of the day! Gotta tell ya, those kinda words will start an outright war with me. First of all, not only is stereotyping the first sign of true moronic idiocy to me, because after all, unless you can prove that you have indeed known every man on the face of the planet, then you are indeed a moron. But more so than that …

Anything men can do, WE can do better!

Really? Well then, SUCK IT UP SALLY and come down from your sanctimony, ’cause with THAT train of thought…

Anything MEN can fuck up, we can fuck up BETTER!

Sometimes (but not “always”) when you’re dealing with an “unhappy, toxic, DEVIL of a man”, the best thing to do is take a good hard look in the mirror. IT TAKES A DEVIL TO MAKE A DEVIL! Maybe it’s YOU that’s manifesting the “asshole” out of him. Ya get what ya give, know what I’m sayin’? And BY the way ladies —

Don’t forget where we came from …


I’m an ecumenical abuser! What’s good for the gander IS good for the goose as well, so let’s all stop pointing the finger at “the OTHER gender” and do a better job managing our own business and “roles”. We’re ALL human! We’re ALL a hot mess! We ALL make mistakes! WE CAN ALL BE THE DEVIL AT TIMES! That being said, the sobering truth is it’s the woman’s hand that literally “rocks the cradle” (or at least that’s what they were intended to do). We are the Earth, the Sun, the Moon, the stars and the entire effing COSMOS to the babies we bear, and even wild animals instinctively know this to be true and sometimes do much better jobs of raising their children than some human “things” with wombs. Now, does a good, strong, emotionally strong and healthy dad have value in the parenting process? OF COURSE HE DOES! Duh, do you think I’m stupid? But you see my friends, “mama” is the ultimate power! Only WE can make them! Only WE can irreparably BREAK them! For every toxic “DEVIL of a man” who’s out there roaming this planet giving “some men” a really bad wrap, chances are that you can trace his broken ways back to the hands of the WOMAN who either did or did not raise him. Sorry, NOT sorry, but it’s the truth, and I don’t care what any of you have to say about it.

I thank GOD for the good “alpha” men in this world. I respect them. I value them. I worry for them. I PRAY FOR THEM! I cherish and honor them as the strong towers they were intended to be. I am a woman who has been lucky enough to be loved by not one, but TWO of the most beautiful KINGS on this Earth. At the end of the day, I thank God I wasn’t born one, because from the moment they draw their first breathe they are expected to bear the literal weight of the world on their shoulders. It’s a brutal reality that so many women take for granted.

If YOU are a man-hating woman reading this right now … GET OUT OF MY DIARY RIGHT NOW! You’re NOT my people and ZERO do I want that kind of nonsense in my life. Sorry. NOT SORRY!

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

1 thought on “MAY 9, 2021: “Mama’s Boys” …”

  1. Howdy! This post could not be written much better! Looking at this post reminds me of my previous roommate! He continually kept preaching about this. I am going to send this post to him. Pretty sure he will have a great read. Many thanks for sharing!


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